F - False Evidence Appearing Real
A - Aggressive, arrogant, haughty, blatantly disrespectful to others, condescending
L - Limited with caring for others, interested only in your self and what you want
S - Selfish, self centered, self-absorbed
E - Emotional detached, egotistical
H - Hazy, out of focus, fuzzy, blurred vision, unsure, doubtful, lacking clarity
O - Obscure, unclear, vague, difficult to understand. always lying, unable to speak the truth
P - Passionately deceptive, dishonest, pretentious, devious, illusory, master of disguise, hoodwinker, bamboozler, mendacious
E - Ensnare, entangle, embroil, to cause conflict, to confuse or complicate things, to clash or wage war, start a fight and catch in a web of deception
People that give false hope in relationships are treacherous, traitorous, two-faced, underhanded, unfaithful, untrustworthy and dangerous.
Psalm 55:20-22, [My companion] has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him; he has broken and profaned his agreement [of friendship and loyalty].
21 The words of his mouth were smoother than cream or butter, but war was in his heart; his words were softer than oil, yet they were drawn swords.
22 Cast your burden on the Lord [releasing the weight of it] and He will sustain you; He will never allow the [consistently] righteous to be moved (made to slip, fall, or fail).
People that give false hope in relationships,
use words smoother than cream or butter to woo, to lure, to entrap and ensnare their partners into believing that everything is okay;
when it's not okay.
They are passionately deceptive and have perfected the artful skill of manipulation and intimidation to control and mislead their partners into believing that they are committed to the relationship for their own personal gain.
Using words smoother than butter they present false evidence appearing real....which is nothing more than fear, to coerce their partners into doing something that they don't want to do and/or sometimes they do it for the wrong reasons, believing that things are one way, when they are the opposite.
Sooner or later the truth is going to manifest, the lies will be exposed, the mask of deception will come off and underneath the surface, damaged emotions, wounds, hurt and unnecessary pain will require immediate attention; self-examination, a spiritual excavation to uncover what was hidden, identifying what caused the hurt, the pain, the damaged emotions and unnecessary pain.
Hurt people, hurt people but healed people help hurt people get healed which brings me to the purpose of writing this article.
My objective is to expose the works of the enemy, the spirit of deception and bring awareness to the characteristics of people who purposely deliver false hope in relationships to take advantage of innocent people, for their own selfish gain.
The deliverer of false hope in relationships is operating out of falsehood because of his/her own inadequacies, fear, low-self esteem, rejection, hurt and pain. They do not know how to properly release there pain in a positive way, therefore they take out their frustrations on other people and thus the cycle continues.
Hope in a relationship means that you have expectations that something good is going to happen in your relationship. You believe that it will grow, flourish and blossom into a meaningful relationship and you place your trust in the person that you are in the relationship with and based on what they told you they were willing to contribute to the relationship.
False hope in a relationship is when your partner's walk does not correspond with his/her talk; you know, the times when:
- the things that they said don't come true
- they break promises and never keep their word
- they create arguments to avoid doing what you want to do and manipulate you into doing what they want to do
- they avoid giving you a straight answer to your questions and notoriously change the subject
- they fault-find, complain and try to make you feel stupid
- they get upset when you are not available to meet their needs
- they always want to know where you are, what you are doing, how long are you going to be there but they never tell you where they are at
- they purposely, intentionally lead you astray, off course, intending to run you away
If you have or are experiencing any of the "you know the times when...." it's confrontation time!
Please do not settle for less, you deserve better I love you and I need you to survive!